Most of us (including myself) have been taught to believe that life is tough and we just have to accept feeling so/so most of the time. The truth is that we can learn to feel good more of the time regardless of what’s going on in our lives. How wonderful it is to be able to be in charge of our mood rather than feel frustrated, angry or anxious when others don’t behave the way we want them to, the weather doesn’t cooperate, traffic is backed up, or you just have too much to do. Being in charge of our emotions- a key component of emotional fitness is the key ingredient that all successful couples have. They know how to have harmonious relationships while being true to themselves.
When Dave and I decided to tie the knot, I was confident that marriage would magically give us our happily ever after. No such luck! We had no idea that love requires nurturing in order to stay alive. We simply didn’t have the emotional fitness and relationship skills, attitudes and self-awareness necessary to deal with the challenges that all couples face. We saw each other as the problem and almost threw in the towel. Thankfully we discovered how to be a truly loving couple. I’m delighted to say that we celebrated our 31st wedding anniversary this year, and are loving our life together!
As a relationship and emotional fitness specialist I combine my personal and professional experience as an RN, BScN, coach, counselor, educator, wife and Mom in my work with clients. I provide you with effective, research based support so you can develop a loving relationship with yourself and develop emotional fitness skills in order to avoid unnecessary heartache and stress- both personally and professionally. Your life is a journey and I believe the journey ought to be fun!
- RN BScN Algonquin College 1980; University of Alberta 1987
- Member of the College of Nurses of Ontario
- Member Canadian Nurses Association
Certified couples and singles coach through the Relationship Coaching Institute
Student at the Couples Institute therapy program with Ellyn Bader and Pete Pearson
- Gottman Leader with The Gottman Institute
- Certification in Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT)
- DBT therapist DBT program Alberta Health Services
- Foundational training in Dialectical Behavioral Therapist (DBT)
- Laughter Yoga instructor
- Vice-President NCR-EAP 2016-2017
- Educator Abraham-Hicks facebook page (Patti Blankenship)
- member of IPNO Independent Practice Nurses Of Ottawa
I’ve spent the majority of my nursing practice as a nurse psychotherapist, coach and educator devoted to promoting relationship and emotional fitness, had an advice column Strategies For Living ( Airdrie Echo), and co-hosted Relationship Confidential online with Maeve Crawford. I am currently in private practice and also consult for Nurse On Board Ottawa
My work as a couples coach is informed through training at the Relationship Coaching Institute, and the Couples Institute (Ellyn Bader and Pete Peterson) and following the work of Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt of Imago Therapy, John and Julie Gottman of The Gottman Institute and Sue Johnson, creator of Emotion Focused Therapy and author of Hold Me Tight.
I’m indebted to the work of many more, including: Albert Ellis, creator of REBT; Lou Tice; Marsha Linehan, creator of DBT ; Ekhart Tolle; Esther and Jerry Hicks (Abraham-Hicks) ; Dr. Len Hew (Ho’ponopono) Pemma Chodron; and Vernon Howard.
I offer the following workshops:
- 7 Secrets To Happily Ever After (marriage preparation)
- Moving in Together
- Raise Your Happiness Quotient
- Laughter Yoga
- Mindfulness Meditation
- Single And Loving It
- Relationship Enhancers For Your Marriage
- Investment In Self
- Get Ready for Love
Spiritual Relationships Ottawa Spiritual Pathways Centre
Laughter Yoga Ottawa Spiritual Pathways Center, NCR-EAP, Canterbury High School
Beat The Winter Blues WBC Orleans
Be A Conscious (Mindful) Super Hero Ottawa Toastmasters Convention
Get Ready For Love Turner Conference
Healthy Minds, Healthy Families Mental Health Symposium at Ridgemont High
Feel Good Now Industry Canada Primary Care Nurses Ottawa
How To Have Your Dream Relationship Unveiled Bridal Trenton Ontario
Panel Discussion Epilepsy Ottawa – Impact of emotions on health
Radio: C100 FM Halifax, 1310 radio Talk To The Hand Ottawa, Life’s Dash with Michele Mattia, The After Dark Radio Show with Ande Lyons and CKCU FM Ottawa
Rogers TV Daytime Ottawa with host Derek Fage,
Rogers TV Ottawa Experts with Host Barbara Balfour
and Rogers TV series Impact Of The Aging Brain with host Ann Dobbins RN
I’m a contributing author of Loving and Lasting- How To Stay Tuned In And Turned On In Your Marriage, and Is That What Love Is?
Odds and Ends
After 27 years in Alberta, and 3 years in Oklahoma, I’m delighted to be back home in Ottawa with our three wonderful sons (aged 27, 25 and 22), our dog Ozzie, and our large extended families.
My personal interests include family and friends, positive psychology, Abraham-Hicks, veganism, movies, design, fashion, gardening, spirituality, and west coast swing dancing